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Pregnant Bachelorette Party 
2nd-Apr-2009 10:06 am [fun stuff]
My sister (and maid of honor) wants to start planning my bachelorette party. I'm due November 15th, and am getting married September 19th. (The wedding was planned long before the pregnancy happened). I'm looking for suggestions from people who have had their bachelorette parties while pregnant, or who had "dry" bachelorette parties for whatever reason. Around here, bachelorette parties usually consist of consuming lots and lots of alcohol. Any creative and fun ideas for a bride-to-be who is also a mama-to-be?
2nd-Apr-2009 03:16 pm (UTC)
pottery painting!
2nd-Apr-2009 03:23 pm (UTC)
I wasn't pregnant for my bachelorette party, but I'm just not a big drinker (I hate the taste of alcohol - yuck!). My maid of honor and bridesmaids decided to bring me to Orlando (we live about 3.5 hours away) and take me to dinner and a show (Cirque du Soleil). We had a blast!

Even if you don't live near a big city like that, if you're into theater or something, you could maybe go see some sort of show or something? Good luck!
3rd-Apr-2009 02:36 am (UTC)
The closest "big city" is Minneapolis, which is about a 2 1/2 hour drive away. It might be fun to get a couple of hotel rooms and go to a show there and maybe do some shopping! :)
2nd-Apr-2009 03:33 pm (UTC)
We went to something called The Awesome 80's Prom for my party. It's an interactive show and we got to dress up in 80's clothes and make up (picture: http://s2.photobucket.com/albums/y49/WillsJoy/?action=view¤t=everyonebacheloretteparty.jpg). We went in a limo and afterwards the limo took us to Ruby Tuesdays and we ate dinner and then crashed at my house. Some of us had a few drinks, but it wasn't a crazy drunken party because that's not what I wanted. You could also do an old school sleepover too, movies and ice cream sundaes and junk food. Yummm...

You could always wait until after the baby is born to have the party too. One of my friend's did that since she was 6 months pregnant when she got married.
3rd-Apr-2009 02:36 am (UTC)
Ooooohhh....and old school sleepover sounds pretty fun! :)
2nd-Apr-2009 03:45 pm (UTC)
yes yes yes!! I had my first bachelorette party dry (we broke up before the wedding...) because I'm not big into bar-hopping at all.

My bridesmaids planned a road rally! it was so fun!! They asked me a bunch of questions about my likes/dislikes/hobbies, etc. and questions about my (now ex) fiance and I and how we met, etc. Then, they used those as clues for places to drive to, and things to go find. Then we broke the guests up into teams of 4 and 5 and sent them off with the clues. Each team needed a digital camera to document their findings. Then, we came back and had drinks (some girls drank alcohol if they wanted) and snacks while a computer-savvy friend set up her laptop to play a slideshow of each team's pictures. We tallied up the points to see which team won, and each person got a gift. I think it was a big bottle of yummy scented lotion.

After that I opened gifts and we played some raunchy board game that had something to do with euphemisms...can't remember what it was called. Mainly after the road rally everyone just hung out and talked/laughed.

Everyone had a blast. It was something different from the usual "go to every bar in a 10 mile radius and get smashed out of your brain" bachelorette part, so I think people liked a break from the norm. I think if people know that you are pregnant, they would obviously keep the drinking to a minimum...especially if the focus isn't on going out to drink!

also, maybe thinking about doing a BBQ, or something fun like that. Beach? (what month are having this?) There are SOOO many fun things you can do.
3rd-Apr-2009 02:38 am (UTC)
That sounds like a cute idea! :) At my first bachelorette party (this is my second wedding, my first marriage ended in divorce), we had a girls only camp-out. A BBQ would be fun. My sister, who would probably host it at her house if it were something like that, has a nice big backyard with a fire pit and such.
2nd-Apr-2009 03:51 pm (UTC)
For other people who want to drink, andyou can't, try Caesar's. They are basically vodka, clamato juice, tobasco, and worcestershire sauce. You can't taste the vodka, so it is really easy to leave out and do as a Virgin Caesar :)
3rd-Apr-2009 01:33 am (UTC)
Lol, but who on earth would want to drink that concoction without the alcohol?! ;) I'd just go for fruity girly drinks-- just make sure they know you want virgin!
3rd-Apr-2009 02:39 am (UTC)
I'm allergic to shellfish, so no clamato for me! We could do bloody marys and virgin marys, though! Mimosas with non-alcoholic sparkling wine would be fun, too. :)
2nd-Apr-2009 03:53 pm (UTC)
It has nothing to do with traditional bachelorette party stuff, and depends on how many people you're inviting, but a spa day...?
3rd-Apr-2009 02:40 am (UTC)
That would be awesome, but probably a bit out of our budget. Maybe we could do an in-home spa kind of thing, give each other massages and manicures and facials and what-not! :)
2nd-Apr-2009 04:29 pm (UTC)
We had a spa day. We did pedicures... which was fairly budge friendly... then went out to dinner afterward. So if some of them wanted to have a drink with dinner they could.
2nd-Apr-2009 05:27 pm (UTC)
I wasn't pregnant for my bachelorette party, but I didn't go to any bars or clubs or anything like that. I went to the Melting Pot with my bridesmaids and we had a fondue dinner. It was a little pricey, but so yummy and a lot of fun; none of us had been there before.
2nd-Apr-2009 08:30 pm (UTC)
Melting Pot is SO much fun. I've had my birthday dinners there for years now. I've never done it as a bacherlorette party, but I bet it'd be awesome!
3rd-Apr-2009 02:41 am (UTC)
I've heard so many good things about Melting Pot. Alas, we don't have one around here. :( Perhaps we could do an in-home fondue party, though! :)
2nd-Apr-2009 05:43 pm (UTC)
What about a girly spa day?
3rd-Apr-2009 02:42 am (UTC)
Popular suggestion! :) I was thinking maybe we could do a do-it-yourself spa day where we pamper each other at my sister's house. That way we could save some money and involve more people.
2nd-Apr-2009 05:46 pm (UTC)
We did have alcohol because we were at a resort in Jamaica, but most of the bachelorette stuff was going to the spa, getting mani/pedis, massages, etc. It was much better than going out clubbing to me, since I'm a bit more laid back and don't really like crowds.
3rd-Apr-2009 02:43 am (UTC)
Oh, if only I could get someone to foot the bill for a bachelorette party in Jamaica! :) I'm assuming you got married there, too?
3rd-Apr-2009 01:02 pm (UTC)
Yep. It was actually a lot cheaper (and less populated by crazy family members) than it would have been had we gotten married near home :)
2nd-Apr-2009 06:09 pm (UTC)
Oh, what an easy question!
Especially after reading your user_info to check to make sure you might actually be into it.
What about a henna party?
I am/was also in your situation. Scheduled to marry at the end of July... but oops, looks like that is when the baby would be coming instead.
So we already married. And we both forwent the bachelor/ette parties. If I had had one, I would have thrown a henna party and/or had my burlesque teacher offer a class and a show to me and my girlfriends how to dance seductively. (I also moved away to another country so I didn't have my friends or the necessary resources (like my burlesque teacher) around to actually accomplish the goal.
Both serve as the real point of bachorlette parties (not the mistaken belief that it is your last night to "live it up" and watch dancing naked guys and drink yourself silly) which is to celebrate and prepare your sensual side for your spouse (now isn't that more romantic anyway?) So sexy lingerie is still IN. Or maybe I am confusing that with a bridal shower. But anyway...
if you want to do both.. you could keep the "theme" and instead of henna and burlesque you could do henna and belly dancing (I just find burlesque more interesting and novel). Choose a nice venue, throw pillows and rugs on the floor, light some candles, incense, music (I recommend persian classical) served with chai... oh and I would add some hookah if I weren't pregnant :-(. .. and walla.. very awesome and relaxing time.
I don't expect you to follow that to the T but perhaps it'll give you some ideas to work with... let me know how it goes!
Just something I pulled from the internet about the symbolism of henna- something more to think about:
At a mehendi, brownish-red henna decorations are applied to the bride's hands, arms, legs and feet. The designs symbolize that the bride is changing from a virgin to a seductive woman for her husband. The future mother-in-law is expected to apply the first dot in the center of the bride's hand. Henna is also playfully looked upon as a way to enhance the couple's wedding night: When a bride wears these intricate designs, her husband may be told to "examine" her to see if he can find where his own initials have been painted into the designs.
2nd-Apr-2009 06:23 pm (UTC)
..and then henna your pregnant belly too!
2nd-Apr-2009 06:49 pm (UTC)
Oh, cool! I wish I'd had a friend like you around for my bachelorette party. My friends just combined the guys and the girls. I ended up being a designated driver and coat watcher. Boo.
3rd-Apr-2009 02:53 am (UTC)
That's what I'm hoping to avoid. I don't want to spend my own bachelorette party driving my drunk friends around!
2nd-Apr-2009 10:29 pm (UTC)
I had a henna bachlorette party, too! I'm not a huge drinker (tummy issues) so while others imbibed, I did not. We had a henna artist come over, did a pot luck thing for food, byob, and taught each other how to belly dance. We did make a quick trip to the local adult store for funsies, but basically stayed home and hung out getting all painted and pretty. It was AWESOME!!!

I love preggar belly henna, too. I'd love to get that done if my belly would shape up and look better =P.
3rd-Apr-2009 02:55 am (UTC)
I'm getting pretty stoked about this henna/bellydance idea. It would be easy to make a day of it and combine it with some of the other ideas, too. We could start by pampering each other with massages, etc., then have a BBQ or a fondue dinner, then onto the henna and belly-dancing, and then round it out with an old-school sleepover! Might need to designate a nap-time somewhere in the middle. :x
3rd-Apr-2009 05:05 am (UTC)
Sounds like a GREAT party is shaping up - wish I could come - LOL!!
3rd-Apr-2009 02:53 am (UTC)
Awesome ideas! :D Some of my girlfriends might not be that into it, but hey, it's about ME, right?
2nd-Apr-2009 06:23 pm (UTC)
I had a lia sophia party and MK party. Those who wanted to go out afterwards did. A good friend of mine was pregnant at the time and she was my DD. She had a blast taking pics and making sure I didn't over indulge.
2nd-Apr-2009 08:33 pm (UTC)
Part of my bachelorette party was in a hotel room. We played pin the penis on the man and other dirty games. (I'm sure your MOH can find things like that) And if you want a stripper, that obviously doesn't require alcohol.

I also recommend Sprite or ginger ale in champagne glasses for toasting at the start of the party.

You can always go out clubbing and just not drink. You can still wear the condom-covered veil and the bride-to-be shirt. Besides, if you've ever been the designated driver for girls night out, you know how fun it can be to watch your friends act stupidly drunk.
2nd-Apr-2009 08:57 pm (UTC)
I didn't get a bachelorette party (I came down with strep and walking pneumonia instead)
BUT....we had planned a Pure Romance Party; hypothetically it should have been a ton a fun and alcohol can be optional.
2nd-Apr-2009 11:12 pm (UTC)
We had a sleepover for my bachelorette party. I wasn't pregnant but I didn't want to go out and do the booze thing. We had a blast. We ordered pizza and watched girlie movies...I think we even played truth or dare. It was great.
3rd-Apr-2009 02:56 am (UTC)
That sounds super fun. :)
3rd-Apr-2009 01:29 am (UTC)
Well, my friend whose part I planned wasn't pregnant, but she wanted something low key so we all went out for dinner and music at a swanky italian/pizza place in Berkeley and then we went to a nice bar she and her now husband love going to-- drinking optional, but the focus was pool. It was just what she wanted and she had a great time and drinking was never the focus. For a pregnant bride-to-be, if you guys can afford it, I would do a spa day with a nice lunch and fruity drinks by the pool!
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