Rant and serious question - please help me!!!!
OK, so I was talking to my mom and one of her friends about how I'm planning on separating the cats from baby while baby is asleep, and we got into a calm, but internally-heated discussion. I left the discussion on the verge of tears, and pissed off at the both of them. I have 2 cats currently, and am VERY opposed to getting rid of a pet unless it is because you are no longer physically or financially capable of taking care of it. (This probably stemmed from having to get rid of all of the pets i had in my childhood because my dad didn't LIKE them, and from the fact that i volunteered at an animal shelter for 4 years). Regardless, these are my values. I was told that my cats would try to kill my baby by smothering them, and that I hneeded to get rid of both of the cats immediately. I rebutted this by saying that I am insistent on constant supervision of all parties (cats and baby, both), and that as long as I keep the house fastidiously clean, there shouldn't be a problem. Then I was told by my mom's friend that, "Well, you can't put your baby second to the cats." I didn't say anything, but I was thinking, "Whoa, who the f*** said I was putting my cats before my baby??? Just because I don't think it's ok to get rid of pets just because I'm expecting a child, does that mean I'm a bad mother-to-be? I like to think I'm not going to be..." There are many people who have multiple children - it's not like just because the older child COULD injure the baby, or leave an unsanitary mess on the floor that the baby could crawl through, that the parents are going to "get rid of" their CHILD. (ok, maybe that's extreme, but still). I come from a place where I SAW with my own two eyes, dogs that were put up for adoption ONLY because their "parents" were having a baby.
So, here's my question:
Is there ANY WAY that you ladies think I could work out to allow my cats AND my baby to coexist in peace, or am I just fooling myself?
Yes, definiitely will be keeping the babies! (the first ones, I mean lol) Thank you all for your helpful advice - it alleviates many of my feelings of being a "bad mother" if I DID keep my kitties. Zappa & Bella have forever homes here!