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Belly shrinkage around 19-20 weeks, not feeling fetal movement yet  
2nd-Nov-2010 07:10 am [movement, showing]
Hey guys! I'm hoping all of my worries will be allieviated by my 20 week ultrasound coming up on Thursday, but I can't help but feel a bit concerned the days leading up to it. Is it normal to feel like your belly size is getting smaller? I boxed up all pre-pregnancy clothing, so I can't really make a sound judgment, but my belly doesn't feel as firm as before. . . I guess this could be chalked up to water retention and bloating, but I wanted to know if any of you guys had this happen. It's kinda freaking me out because I figured I would only get bigger from here. I felt pretty swollen around the 16-17 week mark because I work on my feet so much, so that could explain things. . .

Oh, and I'm also not completely sure if I've felt movement from baby. A lot of people describe it as flutters or butterflies, and I don't have anything like that going on. At times I feel some tension if I'm really still, but it feels more like what I've been associating as round ligament pain. Anyhow, this is my first (successful) pregnancy, so I've heard new moms sometimes have to wait a little longer, and I'm not 20 weeks until Friday. And I was a good thirty or so lbs overweight when I got pregnant, so little guy or gal has a little extra padding to move through. I'm 19w4d.

I'm just hoping and praying that everything's great with baby and that we'll see our guy or girl wriggling around in there. I only had an ultrasound at 8w5d with everything looking good, so it's been a while since I've seen this baby, and I'm having serious withdrawl everytime I look at my teeny bean in the ultrasound pic.

This was probably just a paranoid rant, but I had to get it off my chest. No one believes me when I tell them I feel like my belly has gotten smaller. I figure I still look the same to them, but where it was once firm, it now feels like a pudgy belly. ..
2nd-Nov-2010 12:15 pm (UTC)
I'm 17 weeks and sometimes my belly feels firm when I lay down and sometimes it's not. I've just been assuming it's the baby moving around or something like that to alleviate my own fears. This is my second pregnancy and a lot of women are able to feel movement earlier because of that, but I really haven't yet. I think I've felt flutters awhile back but not much since then (which only makes my mind run more). I'm going to the doctor today and plan to have all my fears erased there too, but I also think you're probably just "paranoid" as you say. :)
2nd-Nov-2010 02:41 pm (UTC)
Yup, went to the doctor and all is fine. And the doctor asked me if I was feeling movement and kind of assumed I was, so I just went with it. Heartbeat is strong and all is well!
2nd-Nov-2010 12:33 pm (UTC)
Sometimes they say the baby may be moving but in a position where you can't feel it. Everyone's different I didn't notice flutters until about 20wks I think, then after that there was thumps and bumps. I'm pretty sure your LO is doing okay. This is my first baby too so I'm with ya on that one! 34w4d
2nd-Nov-2010 12:52 pm (UTC)
At 31 weeks my belly is still constantly changing. Sometimes the lower portion (around my belly button) gets soft and goes back to being fat. My doctor says it's just the baby moving positions and to not worry about it.

Good luck!
2nd-Nov-2010 01:01 pm (UTC)
Don't worry! I started feeling movements pretty early, but I remember that back then, I couldn't really tell if it was 1) the bb 2) random gas 3) my mind making things up or 4) none of the above. I spoke with the gyn and she told me that yeah, all that was the bb, but it's rather hard to tell when you're a first time mom.
2nd-Nov-2010 01:12 pm (UTC)
My first pregnancy, I couldn't feel anything until ~22 weeks.
2nd-Nov-2010 01:18 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I needed to hear all of the above. I have thought I was making things up, gas, sour stomach, expansion pains.

I guess the fetal movement is different for everyone, as is everything else in pregnancy! But when your MIL sits you down and asks you, "Have you felt butterflies yet?!", it makes you feel left out when you don't feel anything you would remotely compare to butterflies. lol
2nd-Nov-2010 01:24 pm (UTC)
You may have an anterior placenta. Make sure you remember to ask at your ultrasound because they probably won't just tell you.
2nd-Nov-2010 01:52 pm (UTC)
this. I asked my ultrasound tech about it and she confirmed it. I didn't feel movement until 22 weeks or so.
2nd-Nov-2010 01:59 pm (UTC)
I'm thirding this. I have one, and I had to ask (the tech didn't volunteer the information).
2nd-Nov-2010 02:51 pm (UTC)
This. I had to ask and have anterior as well.
2nd-Nov-2010 01:58 pm (UTC)
I didn't feel anything until nearly 21 weeks, and the "have you felt the baby move yet?" question used to drive me nuts!

Also, re: your belly, I went through something similar. At first the bump was pretty hard, but then as I gained more weight it got a bit softer, as when I gain weight I tend to gain it all in the belly area. So maybe something similar is happening with you?
2nd-Nov-2010 01:21 pm (UTC)
I think it's normal. Mine certainly seemed to change in size/firmness... even all the way up until delivery.

One thing that was always odd for me was the fact that first thing in the morning... before I even got out of bed... if I lay on my back and felt for my uterus, I could always feel the fundal height. Always. I could feel the outline of my uterus so plainly... like a hard ball in my abdomen... starting at about 14 weeks or so. But yet, once I got up, peed, walked around for a while... I couldn't feel it like that any more. Not even if I got a full bladder later and lay down again. Nope, it always had to be first thing in the morning, lol!
2nd-Nov-2010 01:30 pm (UTC)
I've never felt "flutters" or "butterfly" before. What it feels like to me is like a finger being run across the inside of your belly or being poked from the inside. It's usually pretty subtle still at 18 weeks but this is the 2nd pregnancy that I've felt this so I guess I know what to look for... maybe. LOL! Don't worry about it. My first time I didn't feel the baby until the day after our big ultrasound and some don't feel until 21-22+ weeks.

As far as the belly size going down... I would say it's likely a sudden lack of bloat or maybe things have shifted around (they do that a few times over the course of the next couple of months!). I wouldn't worry yourself too much. You'll be seeing your baby in 2 days so try to relax until then. :)
2nd-Nov-2010 02:07 pm (UTC)
I just wanted to say that I'm so glad I'm not the only one who goes "crazy" like this. I'm at 15w6d and driving my wife crazy with "does my belly look smaller???" and "I haven't gained any weight in 2 weeks there's SOMETHING WRONG" and various other worries.
2nd-Nov-2010 03:10 pm (UTC)
I'm 36w and I didn't gain any weight the last month. Cue me going through half a pack of Kleenex while waiting to see the docs last week, I was so afraid and scared (and ready to call my husband and tell him to come at once, surprise!c-section omg).

Then, when I mentioned it to them, they just gave me a pat on the back and told me that it's not mandatory to gain-gain-gain. The scan confirmed that the bb was doing beautifully, 50 percentile and right where he should be. Don't worry too much!
2nd-Nov-2010 06:40 pm (UTC)
My sister-in-law is about 3 weeks behind me in her pregnancy. So right now, she's about 25ish weeks, and I think she only started feeling movements 3 or 4 weeks ago. I've been feeling movements since about 15 or 16 weeks. Now that she's feeling movements, her kid kicks a lot harder and a lot more often than mine does (I'm 28w5d today).

Both of our babies appear to be just fine according to our respective docs. :)

Edited at 2010-11-02 06:41 pm (UTC)
3rd-Nov-2010 04:36 pm (UTC)
it's normal to lose some weight in the first trimester, and then gain it back in the second. Nothing to be concerned about.

With being 19 weeks, it's also normal not to feel a lot of movement. You may also have a low lying anterior placenta, which could be blocking a lot of your baby's movements. That's what I have. I am currently in my 22nd week, and I am *just* now starting to feel more than bubble movements. A low lying anterior placenta is nothing to be concerned about by the way. All it means is that your placenta is down by your cervix, and on the front side of your uterus. As your baby grows, the placenta will likely move well in time for delivery.
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