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So another random thought today- well not completely random as I was… 
4th-Dec-2012 12:07 pm [legal issues]
So another random thought today- well not completely random as I was looking at my bump.com list, and it has drawing up a will as a to-do. My question is if any of you drew up a will before your baby was born, and when did you start? I'm 23 weeks, and this is something that I've been pondering since before pregnancy, but just want to get some input from you all..
4th-Dec-2012 06:20 pm (UTC)
This is totally on my "to do" list... I'm at 25w and haven't started yet, but... Yeah.
4th-Dec-2012 06:33 pm (UTC)
I'm 31 weeks and still haven't done it, although I know I need to because currently my retirement savings all go to my nephew. Supposedly there are some standard will PDFs you can download (don't ask me from where - I haven't looked yet) that make it pretty easy if you just want a very basic will and don't have a lot of assets that need special treatment.
4th-Dec-2012 06:44 pm (UTC)
We made one prior to her birth, but kinda were slow on getting it on file with the government/etc.

It's done, now, but I think we did it when she was around 9 months old.

In all honesty, get it done...but don't stress over it, especially if it's easy (like "My sister will be guardian and all assets to care for/raise child"). Ours was slightly more complicated since we named guardians outside of the family (which changes "next of kin" "normal" stuff that most people do (according to the lawyer we hired). But it was still relatively easy. The biggest pain was getting it on record.

4th-Dec-2012 07:14 pm (UTC)
It's on my to-do list, too; I'm 19w5d. Not really baby-related, either, but more a "30 Before 30" thing. I'm hoping to have a will drawn up and for it to be reviewed by an attorney and executed before Kit is born. :)

Good question!!
4th-Dec-2012 10:58 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure about the laws in America, but in Australia it's assumed that if you die intestate (without a valid will) then a judge will decide. If you have a child then it would automatically be considered the primary inheritor unless there was excessively good reason for it to be someone else (incredibly unlikely).

We haven't done ours yet - we have a 2yr old son, and I'm due in Jan for our second (and last!) child. We'll do one then. What we did do was though was discuss what we wanted to happen if something happened to both of us parents, and who we wanted making decisions for our child/children - and then spoke to those people and confirmed they were ok with that responsibility. (Not asking them to look after the children, but to make decisions in the best interest of the children based on where they are at in their lives and so on - one set of grandparents and one sibling/sister in law so that there's a generational spread. My inlaws will be able to provide very well financially and my brother is a social worker and sister in law is a PhD Psych and both are very stable and loving and gentle so I trust their decision making ability.)

My husband didn't think this was necessary but I have a complicated legal family history which could (in my worst nightmares) see my biological family being asked for input into the raising of my children, or someone who has already completely screwed up her own children deciding to spear head decision making, so this was really important to me. He's since come around after some further encounters with these troublesome people.

We'll draw the will up formally once we have the next child, so that it can specifically be named. It will be very simple at this point and need to be revised in future when things change of course, but that's the nature of wills. By not doing one yet we're deliberately leaving it up to a judge and my brother and in laws to resolve in the short term (although the nosy aunt alluded to in the previous paragraph might well try to stick herself in to the picture because she likes to resolve and control things - there is at this point no significant assets in our names).

Edited at 2012-12-04 11:01 pm (UTC)
5th-Dec-2012 03:57 am (UTC)
Yeah, not sure if I was pregnant or just trying to get pregnant, but around that point we drew up wills. It gave us some peace of mind.
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