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7th-Dec-2012 04:17 pm [doctor/midwife is an ass]
I last posted about struggling with some depression like feelings. I have felt better over the last day or so, I think the idea that I would get to talk to my doctor today was fairly helpful. Well it would have been helpful if this doctor had not been a total ASS! I think I mentioned somewhere that my husband is military so I am seeing doctors (yep plural) on base. Sometimes you have to take what you can get with appointment availability especially when you are high risk and they want to see you every 2 weeks. I really like this one doctor and after 3 appointments of not seeing her, I am only taking appointments with her from now on unless there is a ridiculous wait (ie 4 weeks instead of 2).

Today this doctor that I have never seen before was just terrible. Tried to tell me that I was wrong about how to use an RX I have been on for 2 years now and had the wrong dose. I called my husband, who was home, and asked him to read me the dose, I was right. The RX is a prophylactic, so I use it as a preventative for UTI's, it is a lower dose than what he thinks it should be but he is also worried I have been on it for two years. So what does he do? Says "Well I guess I can refill it but I am going to refill it at 100 and you take it everyday." Let's get this straight, he upped my dose and changed how often I take it? That make a lot of sense dumb ass. He then tried to tell me it is obvious I am not drinking enough water because my lips are dry. OR....it could be the fact that I have been having major congestion since about 2 months pregnant and find myself breathing through my mouth and not using chapstick (I don't normally snore and since being pregnant my husband has told me that he has caught me snoring more than once). Ladies let me tell you what I drink in a normal day. I start my day with a cup of coffee or juice glass of juice. Then I start working on my first liter of water. By lunch I have usually finished that and still have a glass of water or iced tea with lunch. After that I work on my second liter. Some days I don't make it through both liters but pretty damn close. NO I AM NOT DEHYDRATED! The look on his face was almost as if he didn't believe me. I wanted to smack him!

Oh and I almost forgot. My last appointment was November 20th, 2 weeks and 3 days ago. He sits there and says, "why haven't we been seeing you every two weeks?" Um, you have. "Well I am seeing your last appointment was the 20th so..." I turn to the 3 month calendar hanging on the wall and say, yeah, 2 weeks and 3 days ago. I hope to god this man is not on call when I go into labor.

Needless to say at this point I was done talking to him. I just wanted to get out of there, get my errands done and go home. I didn't make it to talking about the depression as he had been so unhelpful up to that point. My next appointment is in just under 2 weeks and with the doctor I really like (YAY!) and I will have no problem talking to her. Today my feeling down has been replaced with my good old Italian temper. I was pissed! Lucky for me the Doctor did not have a uniform on and only introduced himself as Dr. so and so, which means I had no clue what his rank was and no problem telling him off. LOL I have some respect for rank but I think I still would have been a little pissy with the way he was treating me even if he was a Captain (all of my Drs have been Capts so far).
8th-Dec-2012 12:23 am (UTC)
Probably a good thing you didn't mention the depression then. I was military my entire childhood and I had more than my fair share of run-ins with assholes. When I was 8 years old I had an ear infection and the doctor told my mom I was faking it for attention. Two days later my ear was swollen away from my head the size of a baseball and I had an inner, middle and outer combined infection that resulted in my ear having to be sucked out while I was awake. Not fun. So definitely wait until you see the next doctor.

8th-Dec-2012 05:07 am (UTC)
Wow, that is terrible!. My biggest thing is that most of the support staff isn't any better. The lady that is assigned my "team" (which by the way I was never informed of my team or anything like that, had to figure it out by observation) who is supposed to schedule my appointments always has an attitude. The people who check you in barely look you in the eye, and it seems like no one has a sense of humor around there. So now that I know which doctor I really like I am sticking with her!
9th-Dec-2012 02:48 pm (UTC)
Egads. I had the *same* type of reactions from some of the docs (USAF brat here). I had severe depression and they just told my mom I was a moody teenager (long, painful story about that being resolved). I also had some other aches and pains (later I discovered a food issue - years and years later) and I was told that I was attention seeking. :(
8th-Dec-2012 12:39 am (UTC)
do you have the option of filling out an AAR to make sure that doctor's crap bedside manner is noted..so he can be shuffled off to a corner where he doesn't actually get to talk to patient? (G*d forbid they actually retire anyone! Ugh).
8th-Dec-2012 05:10 am (UTC)
There is a patient advocate thing that I can do. I need to find out more about the process of what goes on when I actually go into labor, doctors on call etc. Since I am high risk if that will make a difference as far as who gets called or what. I don't know if this guy is career military or just trying to have med school paid for but I hope he PCS's real soon to a different base.
8th-Dec-2012 04:24 pm (UTC)
everything else aside, if you are only consuming 2L or less of water daily you probably are dehydrated, particularly given the pregnancy and your congestion (your body needs more fluids to help break up the mucus). caffeinated beverages like tea and coffee don't count, and actually can count against your fluid intake because caffeine is dehydrating.
8th-Dec-2012 07:30 pm (UTC)
I drink decafe since being pregnant and have been told by every doctor that tries to tell me I am dehydrated I need to drink at least 2 liters of water. Since I drink that much if not close too it by using my water bottle and drink other things throughout the day I have a really hard time believing I am dehydrated.

Edited at 2012-12-08 07:31 pm (UTC)
8th-Dec-2012 07:42 pm (UTC)
decaf still has diuretic properties.
8th-Dec-2012 10:28 pm (UTC)
Caffeinated drinks *do* count. It's a myth that they dehydrate you.
9th-Dec-2012 02:38 pm (UTC)
Military doctors! Yay! I grew up a brat and didn't even realize I could 'shop' doctors for a long time (didn't turn in my ID until I graduated college). With my first, I went to a regular clinic that had 15 doctors because that's what I was used to :P Sorry about the doc you saw. I hate when that happens.

I deal with depression while pregnant. Well. I deal with depression when not pregnant. There's a myth that gets tossed around that pregnancy somehow insulates you from depression (even my psychiatrist tried to encourage me - I had to come off my meds to get pregnant this time and he was like, "Well, maybe you'll feel better!" He wasn't entirely wrong - but it's a change from "OMG I WANT TO KILL MYSELF" to "I just hate my life." It's all perspective I s'pose.)

Does Tricare (or whatever your particular branch uses, I just remember that from growing up) cover therapy appointments? Or could it be SAD (idk where you are in the world, but on top of my regular depression I get SAD - a light and Vit. D help)?
10th-Dec-2012 07:48 am (UTC)
I do have tricare and yes they cover therapy. I want to talk to my doctor, but I truly feel like this is mostly situational and I am just feeling like I have no one to talk to. So I am really hoping that drugs (not even sure if there are any safe ones while pregnant) and more the therapy side of it.

I was so frustrated with this doctor too, he just left me feeling like there was nothing I could say that wouldn't provoke a negative response. It has been the first real bad experience I have had here.

I do hope that your perspective continues to stay on the upswing, thanks for your sharing your experience with me.
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