Stuck... need help!
Originally we had no family coming out to visit. However, my mother (who is starting to drive me nuts with this "back and forth" business) is coming out for two weeks from Oct. 22nd to Nov. 6th. She has to be back at work on Nov. 7th to do payroll, so she is unable to stay longer and no one else is coming out until the week of Thanksgiving.
Although I would really like to try for a VBAC, I'm tempted to just see if we can schedule a C-section for 2nd of Nov. (or the 4th if they don't schedule over the weekend) and force my baby to come at 39 weeks instead of 40. I can't be induced because of my previous C-section. So if she decided to go to 41 weeks, I would have to have a repeat C-section anyways.
I'm back and forth on what to do. With my first pregnancy, my doctor wanted to induce me at 39 weeks because of how comfortable I was, but I pushed to let my son stay until he was ready (not that it mattered, since he arrived at 39 weeks anyway). I'm really big on letting her "come on her own". However, if she arrives after my mom's visit, my husband will end up missing his daughter's birth due to need to care for our two year old because he can't be in the OR (if it is a C-section) and if I do have a successful VBAC I absolutely do not want him in the delivery room. I know my son and he won't sit still during a delivery and I will probably end up scaring the crap out of him.
When I say we don't have anyone to take care of my son, I mean anyone. We have exhausted all options at this point as to trying to find friends or sitters that could come on call. We have NO ONE. Which is why I'm very, very tempted to simply schedule a repeat C-section, because my mom can hang out with my son at our house while my husband and I are at the hospital.
My first C-section experience was great. My only gripe was having to spend 4 days in the hospital. The cost of my birth is same regardless of C-section or vaginal delivery.
Any suggestions, opinions, or commiserations would be appreciated. Also, stories regarding repeat C-sections would also be appreciated.