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I am pregnant with our fourth child, and my mother is throwing me a baby shower (she has thrown one for each pregnancy) when I am 35/36 weeks pregnant. My stipulations in agreeing to this was that it would be small (7-8 people), at my house, and no gifts, just girl time to celebrate this new life. So I am trying to think up ideas for what we can do at the party. Any games/ projects/ fun things you can think of would be awesome. We will have four of us in our late 20's, three in their late 50's early 60's, and possibly one in her late 80's, just to give an idea of the group make up. TIA! | |
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I gave birth a week ago tomorrow morning and ended up with a tear near my urethra. The doctor said it didn't bleed so he thought it best not to repair it and said it would heal on its own. Unfortunately, it is still really painful and burns when I urinate most of the time. I dread going to the bathroom it's so bad. Anyone else experience this? Any tips on relieving the pain? If this happened to you, how long did it take to heal? Posted via LiveJournal app for iPad. | |
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Today I developed my first ever hemorrhoid. I looked online for treatment advice and the website said they're common from the third trimester, I've been in the third timester for ONE DAY. They don't hang about do they!
Anyway, so that this isn't just moaning, is it okay to use Anusol? The box says to consult my Midwife but I'm not due to see her for 2 weeks and don't like to cause a fuss. It's just so itchy! It's an outside-the-bumhole one if that makes a difference, I hope I won't have to use the fun nozzle provided for inside-the-bumhole ones. | |
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After posting about being so frustrated with going over our due date, we finally went into labor and our little boy was born at 3:37 am on April 3 (at 41 weeks). Felix Todd was 8 pounds, 9 ounces and 21 inches long. The hospital staff followed our birth plan perfectly and we were able to have a completely natural birth with no drugs or medical interventions. Because we were at a hospital, I did have a hep lock and consented to intermittent monitoring to check on the baby, but everything always checked out perfectly. Our doctor was able to be there as well, and our doula was such a big help. I will never do another labor and delivery without one! We have been home for a couple of days and so far, Felix is an excellent nurser and a champion pooper! I plan to post our birth story once I get a chance to sit down and type it out. Posted via LiveJournal app for iPad. | |
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I need to complain about pregnancy!! :p
I'm almost 39 weeks with number two. When I went in to my doctor on Thursday, I was dilated to four, great position, fully effaced. Doctor seemed quite optimistic it would be this weekend.
but alas, nothing :(. I'm trying to make myself feel better as I never felt contractions with my first (only about two hours before giving birth did I feel anything), Nor did I ever feel my water break (again, showed up at the hospital and it just wasn't there) Made it to four feeling nothing, so I'm telling myself stuff could totally be happening. The only signs of anything I've had has been nausea and diarehea.
I want this baby out! Things moved super fast with number one, so I'm still hopeful it will be soon, but I'm feel less optimistic now :(
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I came across this article via a friend, and found it thought provoking. Basically it says that by taking Folic Acid supplements we are preventing many miscarriages, but we are also allowing babies who have certain genetic abnormalities to be born. When they are no longer getting the supplementation (through prenatals and the mom, or nursing) then autism comes up. Here's the full article: http://mthfr.net/folic-acid-fortification-increase-in-mthfr-and-rise-in-autism/I am not sure what to make of this, and thought I'd ask your opinions. So, Pregnancy Livejournalers, what do you think? Reasonable arguement? Bull hockey? Will it change your habits? | |
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(Maybe everyone knows this already, but) if you're planning to fly while pregnant, I recommend calling the airline when you're booking the tickets and letting them know. I bought tickets on a flight that had no aisle seats left (according to the internet). I told United I needed to get up and walk around frequently during the long flight, so they upgraded me for free to Economy Plus and gave me seats that were reserved for "persons with medical needs" (aisle seats with more leg room). | |
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So... opinion time! I know you lovely ladies (and gentlemen, if there are any here...?) will be able to help me decide. :) If it helps, I'm 36w4d.
I have an appointment today at the birth center, and we'll be having, among other things, a GBS test done. At the recent appointment with my doula, she mentioned something about the possibility of getting checked internally at this appointment so we had a frame of reference for when I went into labor. It's completely optional, she said, and would be my choice.
To my understanding, the birth center doesn't do any internal checks after pregnancy is confirmed, including at the birth itself unless for a specific reason (like, I want/need to be transferred to the hospital and they need to know how progress is going). They'll do one if you request it, but it's not routine.
What are the pros/cons of having an internal check done before you hit labor? I understand that, respectively, they can get an idea of where you are (if anywhere), but it may pose the risk of infection...? Basically, I'm trying to weigh my options.
That, and DH is leaning for, I'm leaning against. ;)
Thanks so much!!
ETA: Oh yeah, I should probably mention that I've been having these cramps recently. They feel like light period cramps ("light" being relative, as I have SOUL-CRUSHING PERIOD PAINS) and have been on and off for a couple weeks now. I don't know if that changes things, but I thought I'd bring it up. :) | |
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I'm 35+1 with my second, which makes me feel dumb for asking this stuff, but this pregnancy is completely different (in a bad way) than my first.
I'm a type 1 diabetic, and I have high fluid levels. I've been having BH contractions since 24 weeks (noticeable ones anyway), and I've posted before about how they come in waves and how I've been able to time some of them and notice some patterns of regularity, but how they always die out. They're still coming and going, though most common in the afternoons and evenings, and are overall getting stronger. I've had some of them wrap around to my lower back and cause some cramping and a feeling of "pressure" -- nothing painful, but noticeable and uncomfortable for sure. I had my first non-stress test done last week and had 3 contractions during the 20-ish minutes of the test. My OB wasn't concerned and said I'm likely having so many of them because of the increased fluid. She said that at this point, if I went into labor on my own she wouldn't stop it. However, if I start having contractions that keep getting stronger/closer together for a good 2 hours in a row, I would need to come in to be checked. She said it's possible that these contractions aren't doing much of anything to actually dilate/soften my cervix. So in theory, I could end up with regular contractions that are going nowhere, and at that point she'd have to drain some of the fluid (less I want to have contractions for weeks straight, I suppose?)
I tried to check my own cervix, but aside from having no idea what I'm feeling for (I've Googled my brains out and still don't 'get it'), my stomach is huge and I have short, stumpy fingers so I really can't get "up in there" to check myself, and my husband is not willing to try to check for me (even though he has the perfect fingers for it! haha). I've been feeling sore and "swollen" down there for weeks though, if that means anything? There haven't been any increases in discharge though, and definitely no sign of a plug or show. I plan on asking my OB to check me when she tests for GBS, hopefully in a week. I've been on spinningbabies.com and have been doing exercises to get baby in a good position since my second trimester, but other than that... what can I do? Has anyone been through this? I'm trying for a VBAC, and I'd really rather not have fluid drained, but if these contractions keep increasing with no change to my cervix, I don't know what other choice I have. Commiseration also appreciated :-/ | |
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Is there a September 2013 group? I've looked but I can't find it. | |
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I was 21 wks on Monday and OMG THE ITCHING!!!! My belly is getting pretty big at this point so I'm pretty sure it's from stretching skin. The cold dry air probaby isn't helping much either (Where is Spring?!). Nothing seems to be helping. I've tried cocoa butter, aquaphor, olive oil, vitamin E oil, and any other lotions I happened to have. They all seem to help for a little while and then an hour later the itchiness comes back. I have some Gold Bond medicated lotion. The active ingredients are dimethicone 5% (skin protecant) and menthol 0.5% (anti-itch). The bottle doesn't say anything about not using when pregnant or consulting a doctor. It's probably okay to use, right?
I have a doctor appointment on Wednesday and plan to ask them what they recommend then, but in the meantime I need some relief! | |
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Hey everyone! I have a slightly weird question, I looked through the tags, but didn't find anything related to my issue. If I missed it and this is really super common or something, I do apologise.
Here is the situation; I am 16 weeks currently and in the last couple of days I have started to experience really severe foot pain. It feels like bone bruises, or like the bones are displaced (?) everytime I walk or stand with any weight on the balls (front part?) of my feet, or move my feet in a way that flexes or extends it causes sharp pain.
I haven't gained weight (I've actually lost 10 pounds a la morning sickness) with this pregnancy, my blood pressure is quite low, and I'm really in quite good shape physically. I should also say that the shoes I've been wearing aren't stiletto heels or anything crazy- I've been sticking to trainers and ballet flats.
I know that progesterone causes ligaments to relax, and that can cause bones in your feet to shift- changing your shoe size. But it seems like a weird and sudden onset of a symptom that from everything I've read, seems like it would be a gradual change. I don't know. Is this the culprit? And if so, is there anything I can do to hasten the end of this pain & discomfort?
I am being a baby about this pain because just my job involves standing & walking for 10-12 hours at a time and I've just let them know that my morning sickness has abated enough that I can come back to work. I've been on sick leave for six weeks and I don't want this new problem to make it impossible for me to do my job.
Does anyone have any experience with this type of thing? Ancedotal or otherwise? I love this community and I thank you all in advance for any help you can give me. You all rock! | |
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What's some of your favorite recipes for this.. June cant come fast enough now, I hope it all goes back to normal, i hate pricking my finger, but as long as I get a healthy baby, I'll be okay. With that said, I'm in a household of people who don't have to watch what they eat (to say).. What's some good stuff I can eat/drink, so I don't have to feel as left out. | |
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This might be a silly question, but my sister has some questions so I thought I'd ask here, since her midwife appointment isn't until Friday afternoon. Also, I don't know how to do the tags from my phone, sorry! She had a miscarriage (around 7 weeks) last year at the end of August. And has just found out she's expecting again. She's somewhere between 10 and 12 weeks. In the last two weeks she's noticed particularly tender breasts, mostly around the nipple. This goes away a little with a light squeeze of the nipple. Whenever the pain is there some clear, yellowy liquid comes out, which she said tastes sweet. She's only noticed this on one side and never experienced it with the baby she miscarried. Does this sound like colostrum to you? When did you start to notice colostrum? Is there anything she can do to minimise the pain that won't affect breastfeeding? Posted via LiveJournal app for iPhone. | |
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I'm at 7 weeks pregnant. Because of the spotting, I went for an emergency apointment with my ob office this past Friday (March 22). My cervix is closed, my hCG levels are good, the measurement and heartbeat of the baby are right on par for where they should be. The doctor classified it as as Threatened Pregnancy (I had had some cramping) but said things have a good chance of going well.
So Thursday night, I had some moderate dark brown/reddish spotting. Since then, the spotting has slackened off significantly to a tan color that is like smudges on my panty liners and is pretty much come and go every couple of hours. I'm having A LOT of gas pain (I don't have my gall bladder so I'm pretty sure that makes gas issues worse than a regular pregnancy because I was gassy before I got pg). My breasts, which were super tender a week-to-two weeks ago are just kind of tender now though my nipples and areolas are still dark.
Is spotting like I'm doing something normal? I saw on a past post about spotting that seeing a heartbeat lowered the chance of miscarriage significantly; is this true? There was obviously a strong heartbeat and I saw the flickers on the U/S screen (I don't remember the heartbeat but I think it was like 160ish? 180ish?) Do you know of a reason that I would be spotting like this? Could it have something to do with a placenta (if there is a placenta at this stage in the pregnancy)?
I've got my first regularly scheduled OB appointment later today and plan to ask these questions but I'm hoping I can get some insight sooner from those who have been through this already. Thanks in advance! :) | |
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I hope this isn't too off topic, as I am not currently pregnant:
I know every pregnancy and every woman is different, but for those who have more than one kid, what were the similarities/differences between your first and second pregnancy/labor/birth?
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Wanted to introduce myself.
Just pee'd on the stick this morning and it immediately showed two bright pink lines, SQUEEE!!
According to the internet (who knows everything), my due date is Nov. 16th.
This is my second pregnancy and unlike my first pregnancy, this one was planned.
Looking forward to this adventure and so glad to have found this community! - Mood:blah
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Every so often I pop in here to share a link to a birth video which I think some of you pregnant mamas would like to watch. I just documented a beautiful homebirth and I thought it's especially good for those of you wondering about having bigger siblings present for the birth. This birth has three big siblings, 2, 5 & 7 present and involved in the welcoming of their new baby brother if you'd like to watch it you can here. It's a home water birth, midwife assisted with some boob & blood but otherwise quite modest. | |
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For those of you with SPD/PGP, did you find anything helped minimise the discomfort when going to sleep?
I find I can manage the pain during the day by limiting my activities, but on laying down to sleep I ache so flipping much! I have a Dream Genii pregnancy pillow which is amazing, but I still can't find a position that doesn't hurt. Some positions are better than others (legs together, for example, is preferable to leg slightly displaced). After maybe an hour's sleep I'm fine, but I'd like to find something that reduces that initial discomfort.
I'd consider a paracetamol half an hour before bed, but I don't want that to be routine unless I have to. Baths help while I'm in them but as soon as I'm out I ache again. Maybe a hot water bottle, but I'm not sure if I should avoid heat due to inflammation of the joints? What would REALLY help I'm sure is ibuprofen. Hmph.
33w 3d and this baby can't come soon enough!*
*I don't mean that. I hope she cooks as long as she needs to. | |
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Not very concerned, just a little curious...
I'm almost 29 weeks and whenever I eat or drink anything whether it be a sip of water or a large meal, when I take a deep breath in then out again, my stomach makes weird noises right below my ribcage on the left side. It's like a "thunk thunk thunk" (it literally is three 'thunks' per each inhale) gurgling noise. It's noisy enough that people sitting near me can hear it.
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Hi ladies,
I am 7 weeks pregnant today with #3! We were excited when we decided to have a third child and excited when we found out we were pregnant. Now I'm worried about having three children! I use to want 4 children but my husband only wants 3. The way I feel right now, 3 is a good number. We have an almost 3 year old son and a 14 month old daughter. My husband wants another boy and I am undecided but leaning towards a girl. I think it's going to be a boy based off my symptoms. I have mild nausea, heartburn, and fatigue. I didn't have these symptoms with my daughter but I did with my son. I guess we'll see.
I am due November 8th, which happens to be my birthday! I think it would neat to share my birthday with my child! Anyone else due in November? | |
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I went for a check up, yesterday. Everything checks out great. I came back with two questions. First, I was asking about high blood pressure. The doc said I was at risk because my daughter has a different father than this baby. Can anyone tell me why or point me the right direction for more information? Second, my daughter was born three weeks early and weighed 7.6 lbs. She would've been a larger baby had I gone to 40 weeks. She recommended me to a specialist me to possibly receive a shot (it starts with a M)that prevents preterm labor. My gut says don't worry about it since my daughter was born without complications or a low birth weight. Does anyone have any experience with the shot? Or opinions one way or the other regarding the shot. Thanks so much! | |
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My son is 2 now, and though we're not trying right now, I definitely want a VBAC next time around. My whole birth experience was really awful for me, and I have no wish to repeat any of it. My intervention-free water birth at home turned into a hospital visit, then a hospital stay, then an epidural for a surgical procedure which became unnecessary (guided amniotomy to prevent cord prolapse), then a child presenting face-first, then a failed epidural and two hours of moaning and crying until I got a spinal in the OR. My OB told me face presentations are a difficult way to deliver at the best of times, and after being in labour for 36 hours, I was not at my best. After an hour of pushing my son hadn't budged at all, so I got a c-section. The whole experience still weighs on me heavily. I don't want any of that again.
Anyway.
My OB told me during surgery that everything "looks healthy in there", and both she and my midwife told me to wait until my son was at least 14 months old before trying for #2, so that deliveries would be minimum 2 years apart. They told me this was to ensure "maximum uterine healing". Well, I remember reading somewhere a while back that the uterus does all the healing it's going to do in the first two months PP. So what gives? Since my c-section wasn't an emergency, I assume they did the horizontal incision of the uterus instead of vertical (my medical notes are in a box somewhere), and my skin incision is horizontal. So it should not be a problem, right? Isn't the increase of risk of uterine rupture only like, 1-2% or something?
Also, I know at least two women who had VBACs before their previous child was 2. Any of you have safe VBACs within that time period? | |
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I live in the US, and I design pet products for a living (cat toys, scratchers, dog beds, etc.) My boss would like me to go with him next month to visit some of the factories we work with in China. I'll be 19 weeks. I've never been to China, but I'm paranoid (not about travel, just about this pregnancy - it comes after a few losses, so I'm super, super cautious and easily freaked out). I've heard bad things about the pollution there, and I worry about food. I can back out of the trip if I do not feel comfortable.
Years ago, I went to Mozambique (Africa) where I was super careful about what I ate, didn't get sick. Went to Peru, was not as careful, and got horribly sick with something that gave me diarrhea for a couple weeks, and I lost over 15 pounds. Went to Manila with family and had no problems.
I don't know the language (not even sure if they speak Mandarin or Cantonese where we are going), but I will be with coworkers who have been before. My OB is okay with the idea, but admits he doesn't know much about China specifically.
So, pregnant community of LJ, would you go? | |
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Hi Ladies,
I looked through the tags, but wasn't finding much on my current might-be problem.
At the moment my problem is that for a few days now I've had left-sided cramping that just comes and goes. It's not severe, but more of a dull ache that sometimes feels like monthly cramping. There's been no bleeding, but then, there was never any bleeding with my first miscarriage, either (if you've had a missed miscarriage once, are you more prone to have one again?). And when I think about it, I'm pretty sure that just about any cramping I've had this pregnancy has been almost all on the left side.
I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant. This is my fourth pregnancy; the first ended in a missed miscarriage around 8 weeks (undiscovered until 12 wks, thanks to no one in the area accepting military insurance, boo), and the other two pregnancies resulting in healthy babes. During my second pregnancy I developed severe pre-eclampsia and had an emergency c-section at 36 weeks, and my third pregnancy went full-term with me delivering naturally.
Other than this somewhat consistent cramping, I think things have been pretty normal, although it's a bit tough for me to gauge since none of my pregnancies have ever looked like one another. My breasts are already very sore and producing a very small amount of colostrum. I occasionally get a sharp pain in my lower back, but it's always like a rare one-shot of pain. For the past three or so weeks I've for the most part been incredibly tired with bursts of normal or extra energy in between. This all seems pretty standard pregnancy fare.
What do you think? Does this sound like a potentially red-flag situation to you? I intend on calling my OB in the morning, but in the mean time I'm scoping out what advice or experiences anyone else might have to share.
Thanks for reading. I hope you're all doing well and feeling up to par! | |
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Background: 33 weeks with #2. Type 1 diabetes, elevated fluid levels (though not high enough to cause immediate concern) and still nursing #1 who is 27 months.
At 24 weeks I started noticing BH contractions. Initially they were sporadic, maybe 2 in a row at most, then nothing for hours or even days. As my pregnancy progresses, however, they're becoming not only more frequent but more regular. Friday night, for example, I noticed a few BH contractions. After about 2 or 3 in a row I decided to quickly download a contraction timer app on my phone (dorky I know but it's all I had). The contractions ranged from 40 seconds to a little over a minute in length, with a 3:30-4:30 minute break between them. I was able to time 5 in a row like this (after the initial 2 or 3) before they started to taper off and eventually stopped. I then had a few random ones throughout the night but since then I've really only had a few single, random ones, mostly during or after nursing my son. The ones on Friday night were also accompanied by lower back aches (nothing severe) and were some of the strongest I've felt yet. I always try to move if I'm sitting, sit if I'm standing, drink water, go to the bathroom, etc etc but nothing really works to ease them, they just go away eventually on their own.
I've heard that anything over 5 in an hour warrants a call to my OB, but if I called every time this happened I'd be calling probably at least once a week. I briefly mentioned it to my OB at my last appointment on Thursday, and she didn't seem too concerned, as long as they go away and I don't have any other symptoms, and an ultrasound that same day showed everything was fine (minus a big baby and high fluid levels), and I'm feeling plenty of movements. I'm not entirely sure I explained it well enough though (or if I remember what my OB even said accurately), as I was going off of little to no sleep after a stressful week with in-laws for a funeral.
I guess I'm wondering if I should be more concerned about this than I currently am. I see my OB again at the end of 34 weeks, which is when I'll start having two NST's per week until delivery, along with additional ultrasounds to monitor fluid levels and baby's size. I won't lie, I'm really hoping this baby comes early on her own, since I'm hoping for a VBAC (and I'll be honest -- I'm completely miserable already, and my blood sugars are getting very difficult to control despite taking massive amounts of insulin). | |
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Anyone else experience prodromal labor ("false labor.") I've been having prodromal labor for several hours a day every day since Monday - mildly to moderately painful contractions that occur regularly every three-five minutes for up to 2 hours, but then go away after two hours and usually happen for at least two or three one hour periods a day. My OB is great and has talked to me about them and that they're helping prime the cervix and given me parameters to call (water breaks, they don't go away after two or three hours.)
However, my concern is that my OB told me that I'll "know" the difference if I'm real labor and I'm terrified that I won't. Two of my close friends precipitously delivered and I'm worried that I'll have several hours of real labor before I realize and then not make it to the hospital on time. I know the chance of that happening is almost non-existent, but if anyone else experienced a lot of prodromal labor, can you tell me how your "real" labor felt different? | |
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Is there one for November 2013 yet? | |
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As many of you said, hitting the second trimester and waiting for the anti-depressants to be out of my system would possibly lead to feeling better.
And I do, thank goodness!
One thing, food tastes so good, now! And healthy food, too, which is suck a bonus.
I don't feel like I want to clobber my husband, anymore. However, we haven't engaged in anything "romantic." I'm nervous, now and wondering if anyone has any advice on going forward. Especially tips (for in bed) that would help with comfort. I feel like I'm having a lot of growing pains that are made worse by awkward stretching and moving.
Also, what are some good recommendations for books geared towards Dads? If there are one specificall geared to the birth process and being a supportive partner, that would be awesome!
I'm taking things day by day. I still have moments when I think to myself, "I hate my life. This is horrible." But, I suck it up and keep moving.
I'm anxiously awaiting to start feel the baby kicking. I think that'll help with connecting with him or her since it may feel more like a pregnancy as opposed to just gaining a fat stomach. When did you start feeling the baby kick? I can't remember when I did with my first one. | |
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Is it concerning if you're 37 weeks and your belly is measuring at 34? It's quite odd because at 35 weeks, I was told I was measuring at 35 cm. The week prior at 34, I was measuring 2 weeks behind. So, it went from 2 weeks behind --> right on --> 3 weeks behind.
I was also told that I lost a pound this week, which is very unusual since I haven't done that once during the pregnancy, and I have been eating the same amount as always.
Could it be that the baby is so low in my pelvis that he's not measuring correctly? I'm not terribly concerned since my doctor didn't seem to worry, but she has mentioned in the past that they start to worry when it ranges out of the 3 week difference. | |
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I'm at 39w2d and I'm just wondering what kind of decrease in fetal movement I should be worrying about? This is my second and she hasn't ever moved as much as my son did in my first pregnancy. I remember I felt her moving this afternoon around noon but since then I'm not sure. I can't get her to respond right now either but she might just be sleeping? I know if I call my doctor they will send me to L&D. I'll go there if it seems like I should but I am SO exhausted right now I really need some sleep - my hospital is 40 minutes away. I will absolutely go if it's appropriate but I can never tell bc my OBGYN practice sends you to L&D for literally everything. Is this the kind of thing that can wait until morning? I'm laying on my side and drinking water but still not feeling anything. Posted via LiveJournal app for iPhone. | |
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Good Afternoon ladies, i am new here and have a few questions. i am new to this whole thing, so forgive me if i seem a little confusing. it has been 10 dpo, i have not experienced any implatation bleeding that was noticeable, i have had extremely scant brown spotting. i am 6 days away from my expected af. i have had waves of nausea, headaches and small muscle spasms in my abdomin area. i have read that this could be the uterus growing. also i have always had sore breasts about 11 days before my period, however as i said i am 6 days away, no breast pains whatsoever. my husband and i have been ttc, for about 6 month. i have noticed small surges of pain in my right nipple, but this was only once, i have not felt anything but small spikes of pain on the tops of my breasts. its not frequent. with this nausea it was coming and going, i also drank a cup of my usual coffe, how i always make it and it tasted rank.. i was so upset because i love coffee, however i didnt waste it, drank it and regretted it a half hour later with severe nausea u-u now i have read that most hpt's are more accurate about 3 to two days before your expected period. i am very impatient, and i would like to know what you ladies thought i should do, do i wait until the 12th? any advice on any of fthese questions is greatly appreciated. thanks. - Mood:anxious
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I feel very disconnected to this pregnancy. I'm only 11 weeks, but with not showing and only having the miserable symptoms such as NEVER pooping, I'm not thrilled with even being pregnant. My first pregnancy, the moment I found out I was pregnant, I was instantly in love with the little thing. It was exciting and wonderful. This one, not so much. Anyone else experience the feelings of not really being pregnant, just miserable and not really excited or even connected? Which also means I've been bitter about getting to the doctor for routine check ups. I went to the first appointment to confirm, had an ultrasound and bloodwork done. But now she wants me to come back to discuss the bloodwork and my choice on genetic testing. If there's no alarm on the bloodwork and I don't want genetic testing done, isn't this just a waste of time and money? Gheez.
I just want to cry all the time.
I feel disconnected from my husband, too. God bless his patience with me, but I'm nothing but a witch to him and I feel horrible. We haven't had intercourse since shortly after the conception, I know the feeling of not wanting to romantic is common, but gheez, we got married on December 19th. I don't know what to do, he just drives me nuts. Any experience or advice would be so appreciated at this point, I'd probably cry.
Just added overwhelming note: We're house hunting (little added bonus, my husband and I don't even live together) and found a house we love. However, there is asbestos in it. Has anyone ever dealth with asbestos before?
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Ok, so I wasn't sure where else to go with this question. My doctor didn't give me any definitive answer and Google hasn't been real helpful either.
I'm five months postpartum in two days. Since having my son, my back has been all sorts of messed up. The worst symptom I have is stiffness. I will wake up in the middle of the night and it hurts so bad to even move, so I end up having to roll over and do some very painful stretching before I can get out of bed. Aside from that, it starts to burn if I'm in an uncomfortable position for too long.
I did have an epidural, but I'm not sure if this is related to that or the fact that I'm 5'3" and carried a 10 pound baby around inside me.
Any insight as to what's causing this and what (other than stretching) may help would be greatly appreciated! | |
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Hi everyone! I am in my 13th week and I have been having a rough time so far with this pregnancy. This is my first, and unplanned pregnancy. (Er, semi-planned? We weren't actively trying, we thought it would take some time after getting off birth control, but apparently not.) My morning sickness and fatigue have been so severe that I actually had to take a leave of absence from my job in my 8th week, and currently I am battling both problems, along with a new one! I am now incredibly uncomfortable no matter how I lay in my bed. My breasts are ridiculously sensitive, my belly is awkward, and since I'm not keeping much down, my antidepressants are rapidly leaving my system, rendering me even more of a delight to be around. Basically, I'm miserable. People have been telling me for months that it will get better. It hasn't. If anything, I feel like it's actually gotten worse.
I don't know if anyone else has felt this way or had this experience- I feel like a horrible person for even saying it; but I really hate being pregnant. I am really excited to be a mum and actually have & raise the baby, but these pregnancy shenanigans are not my cup o tea at all. Maybe I'm just extraordinarily whiny or awful of a person, but it's how I feel. Pregnancy has not given me a glow, or any sort of rubbish like that.
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I’m 28w4d with baby number 2. She’s been head down for a while now, though up until today, she would float up and turn transverse or fold herself up into weird positions when I lay down to sleep. Today, however, I noticed after napping for a couple of hours that she had the hiccups, and I felt them down a little lower than usual, and she had not migrated out of my pelvis. She’s also been doing headstands on my cervix and bouncing. Not comfortable, I tell you. Anyway, you’d think I’d know the answer to this question since it’s not my first rodeo, but I’m kind of wondering if she’s already dropping, and maybe the bouncing on my cervix is dilating me? Can I dilate without more than a few BH contractions here and there? She’s seriously so low that when she bounces, it feels like my water is going to break and she’s just going to fall out. I’m not displaying any signs of pre-term labor or anything, so I’m not really worried, I’m just curious if her head putting so much pressure on my cervix could be dilating it a little. I’ll ask my midwife at my next appointment next week, but I thought I’d get some input here first. Also, an unrelated question. At my last appointment at 26w3d, I was measuring 29 weeks. I feel like this baby is very long at the least, and big and long at most. For those of you who measured several weeks ahead like that, did it continue? Did you end up with a big baby? Thanks!
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Hi all!
I have a question about plus-sized pregnancy. I noticed that that community big_mother was the only plus-sized pregnancy community listed and that it hasn't been updated since 2009. :(
So I found out last week that I am pregnant and due sometime around Nov 6. I have my first prenatal exam at the end of the month when I suppose they will be able to tell me more about how far along I am (though I am pretty sure I'm only about 5 weeks because I had a full period at the end of January). I'm 25 years old and don't have any health issues other than being plus sized and only having one ovary.
For the past five days, I've noticed that my pants are rather snug in the lower abdomen despite the fact that I have not gained any weight. I thought perhaps it could be due to the constipation I've been dealing with for the past week. However, I've still had a bowel movement every 2-3 days and since I've upped my intake of leafy greens, things have been running smoother over the past two days. I'm just wondering if it is normal to feel so "full" there already and for my pants to already start feeling snug DESPITE the fact that I haven't put on any more weight?
DH and I are really excited that we are expecting but I'm having a little bit of trouble wrapping my head around it. I have actually grown to take comfort in the "full" feeling I have as a reassurance that I am pregnant. Even with a positive test done at the doctor's office, it's hard for me to really believe it. Sometimes I wake up and my abdomen almost feels completely normal (pre-pregnancy) and it freaks me out. So, despite the fact that I'm not really enjoying being uncomfortable in my pants, I take comfort in the fact that I have physical proof that I am pregnant. Does that make sense?
I'm not experiencing any of the "typical" (if there is such a thing) symptoms like nausea and cravings/aversions. I do have a very heightened sense of smell, my breasts are slightly tender and a smidgen fuller, and I have to pee more frequently. I know it's still really, really early into the pregnancy and I don't WANT any of the bad/annoying symptoms of pregnancy but I almost feel weird that I'm not throwing up or craving stuff yet.
By the way, if anyone knows of an active/current plus sized pregnancy community on lj, can you please link it? My search skills are not turning up anything that has been updated in the last few years. I know I couldn't possibly be the only plus sized pregnant lady! | |
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What's the normal "etiquette" for bringing kids with you to Labor and Delivery?
My husband and I have two kids, aged 7 and 3, and I'm 37 weeks pregnant. We recently moved to a new city, and our closest family members live 4 hours away. While I'm sure those family members would be in the car and on their way the moment we called them, I'm known to have relatively fast deliveries, and I fear they wouldn't make it in time to watch our older kids.
Unfortunately, no one is able to take off work and just camp out at our house for days on end until I go into labor or anything like that, so the kids are most likely going to end up at the hospital with us for a while (unless it all happens while they're at school). I've been really stressing out over this because, while our older child is marvelously well-behaved and can read books for hours on end, our 3 year old is very much a 3 year old, if you know what I mean.
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I don't know where else I would ask this and I have been googling the heck out of this and failing. So, any input you can offer is awesome and TIA!
History: One prior pregnancy, conceived with ART and successfully carried to term - my daughter was born January 09 and is a healthy happy normal (mischievious) 4 year old.
A year after she was born we did fertility treatment again to try for #2. Six intensive rounds failed and we were told conception was unlikely without IVF. We opted against it and gave up on the idea of expanding our family. (Practically, at least. Emotionally it was a lot harder, but that was neither here nor there.)
Fast forward and on 2/5 I randomly took a pregnancy test (anyone with fertility issues will understand - I took these a lot over the years, never expecting anything to come of it because I rarely get my period; it is irregular and happens only 2-3x a year but not any consistent interval - my periods were induced for fertility tx, although that said my daughter was conceived on a cycle where I randomly menstruated on my own). It came up positive, which shocked me because I hadn't had my period since June of 2012, which is over 8 months and even if I was pregnant I wasn't -that- pregnant. A dating ultrasound later the following week showed I was 6w5d pregnant, so I tested just about as early as I could have and still get a positive. (Random dreams ftw?)
Question: I have had brown spotting off and on for 2 weeks now, I'm currently 9w0d. Brown spotting -does- happen after intercourse, does not happen after exercise unless it's already occurring (I run fairly regularly). I have not had red spotting. An ultrasound showed no sources of bleed and a healthy baby with consistent growth when I went in Wednesday. With it being brown they're not concerned, but this pregnancy is such an unexpected miracle that well...I am.
I know with it being brown it's not a huge red flag or anything, no pun intended. But I spent a lot of time thinking today and I began to wonder if it's possible it could be because I hadn't had my period in so long and still randomly got pregnant. From a biological stand point my old lining was never shed and while u/s shows a healthy lining in there now and a thriving baby, is it possible this is remnants of my lining being purged because they were never normally purged with a period? I feel like I might be grasping at straws but I'm not sure what other conclusion to draw (if there actually is a conclusion to draw - my doctor seemed content to leave it as unknown etiology with expectant management).
I'd also love to hear positive brown-spotting stories (please no negative ones - I absolutely respect your experience and you have my deepest sympathies but I really need positivity right now). Baby is healthy and growing with a great hb each time (162 at the last u/s) so logically I know all should be well, and yet... | |
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My original post is here: http://pregnant.livejournal.com/17487314.htmlI thought I'd do an update post as to how my preemie baby is doing because the community did not have too much information when I looked through the preemie tag when I had Hazel. Hazel is now gestational age 32 weeks 4 days, adjusted age 6 weeks one day old. She has gone from just under a pound to 3 lbs and 12 ounces and continues to eat and grow! She is now off of her CPAP, breathing room air and adjusting her own body temperature. She gets fed my breast milk through a tube, but next week we will get to try oral feedings! ( PhotosCollapse )Hopefully Hazel will be coming home around or a little before her due date of April 21st. We are halfway there! This has been the hardest, most emotional time of my life, but with each milestone we make, I know it's worth it! | |
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Hello fellow moms-to-be.
My OB recommended massage to help with some lower back pain.
Has anyone had prenatal massage? If so, how was it? Did it work? About how much did it cost?
Thanks!
ETA: Looks like the typical cost people are saying is in line with what the place I called charge, but that's pretty pricey for me!
Also, they don't have a table for pregnant women, even though this is the place my OB specifically recommended.
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Has anyone successfully used mama cloth or a mooncup etc for lochia?
Since using cloth nappies on my daughter I'm interested in reducing my disposable purchases. I planned to buy or make some mama cloth for personal use but only had one period in between my pregnancies! I've seen 'overnight/lochia' cloth menstrual pads but knowing how many disposable maternity pads I went through a day in the first couple of weeks makes me wary of spending what would be a large amount of money one something I wouldn't use again for a couple of years (hopefully!).
How about mooncups etc? Are these suitable or completely inappropriate for lochia? I've not used one before so this may not be the best time to learn, but I'm definitely interested in finding out my options!
29 weeks, so plenty of time to make some pads if I choose to go down that route. :)
EDIT: Okay, so nothing internal for lochia! I did know that - can't believe I forgot! I'll look into getting/making some cloth pads though, as I think they will be useful. I remember fairly heavy bleeding after my daughter and one or two clots but nothing that wouldn't be covered by a decent cloth pad I think, after the first few days. I'll be using cloth nappies anyway so will probably be washing every day or every other day for a while. | |
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Tomorrow I have an appointment at my hospital with the VBAC clinic. I didn’t have a Caesarean with my first pregnancy – she was forceps delivery following a stalled second stage, but I want to be prepared for birth this time so requested to see my notes.
What I know of the birth is that it was long and tiring. I think I pushed for 4 hours before intervention was needed, I presume due to baby’s heart rate decelerating. During surgery I was given a number of suppositories at least one of which I reacted badly to, resulting in a temperature spike and increased blood pressure. I was given antibiotics, fluids, had an ECG and lost enough blood that I was nil by mouth for hours while they tried to decide if I needed a transfusion or further surgery. Thankfully daughter was fine and dandy through all this.
I want a de-brief of my last birth. I don’t consider it traumatic but it wasn’t ideal, and I feel I will be better prepared if I know exactly what happened, what I was given, and the reasons behind the decisions made. I also think this will be my best opportunity to ask any questions regarding my last birth and preparation for my next, as this will be with a lead midwife or consultant with my full medical notes available.
Questions I want to ask:
Why was medical intervention deemed necessary during my labour? (I think this was explained to me at the time but I was not exactly in best position to take it in!)
What medications was I given? What for?
Which of these is it likely I reacted to?
What alternatives are there should I need these medications again?
Why did I have an ECG taken?
Can I have a copy of my medical records from this birth?
Anything else I should be asking? FWIW, I’m planning a hospital water birth (laboured in the water last time and oh was it good!) with only gas and air for pain relief. I’m suffering from SPD at the moment (not too bad) and am at risk of cholestasis again, hence the hospital birth rather than the local birthing centre. I have not done my birth plan yet but this clinic will likely influence it. | |
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